Give me your dating take:
As I talk with singles, especially the under-30 crowd, I have found they have some stupid dating (as in, just going out for coffee) rules.
Tell me if you think these are true and add others that I might be missing.
- "She’s three years younger than me. If I ask her out, people will think I’m a pedo.” “I’m a sophomore. She’s a senior. Do I want to date a cougar?” Obviously, keep it legal, but high schoolers and college students seem to think they can only date people in their grade.
- “He was talking to one of my friends four months ago, so I feel like she would be mad if I went out for coffee with him.” Gen Z seems to think that if a guy and a girl were dating several months ago, or even a year ago, they are permanently off-limits.
- “He’s thinking about becoming a lawyer, and that means he’ll probably have to move to the East Coast. And I’m not sure if I’m ready to make that kind of decision since I’ve always wanted to buy my grandparents’ house in Toledo, so I’m just not sure if things would work out between us.” Gen Z future-trips like none other. Will reject a date based on a fantasy future that may never materialize.
I don’t feel like previous generations did this. And it significantly limits their dating pool.
What else am I missing? Would especially love to hear from the singles.
As I talk with singles, especially the under-30 crowd, I have found they have some stupid dating (as in, just going out for coffee) rules.
Tell me if you think these are true and add others that I might be missing.
- "She’s three years younger than me. If I ask her out, people will think I’m a pedo.” “I’m a sophomore. She’s a senior. Do I want to date a cougar?” Obviously, keep it legal, but high schoolers and college students seem to think they can only date people in their grade.
- “He was talking to one of my friends four months ago, so I feel like she would be mad if I went out for coffee with him.” Gen Z seems to think that if a guy and a girl were dating several months ago, or even a year ago, they are permanently off-limits.
- “He’s thinking about becoming a lawyer, and that means he’ll probably have to move to the East Coast. And I’m not sure if I’m ready to make that kind of decision since I’ve always wanted to buy my grandparents’ house in Toledo, so I’m just not sure if things would work out between us.” Gen Z future-trips like none other. Will reject a date based on a fantasy future that may never materialize.
I don’t feel like previous generations did this. And it significantly limits their dating pool.
What else am I missing? Would especially love to hear from the singles.
