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I found a definition for love this year that made the concept of unconditional love coherent to me
Love is a pattern of attention
In every person/place/thing/idea there is some reflection of “the good”
When you love something, you orient towards whatever glimmer of good is in it, no matter how faint, you sensitize yourself to it, and by directing your attention to it, you will nurture it and help it grow
Hatred is the opposite, it is finding some flaw or fault in a thing and letting that fill your mind so much that the flaw blinds you to even the hint of goodness
Love is a pattern of attention
In every person/place/thing/idea there is some reflection of “the good”
When you love something, you orient towards whatever glimmer of good is in it, no matter how faint, you sensitize yourself to it, and by directing your attention to it, you will nurture it and help it grow
Hatred is the opposite, it is finding some flaw or fault in a thing and letting that fill your mind so much that the flaw blinds you to even the hint of goodness
Nobody knows what "unconditional love" meansView quoted post on X
They say they love their partner unconditionally and then you're like "would you still love them if they cheated on you and raped your children" and they're like "no, of course not" and then you have to explain what a condition is
