RULE #8
At play and at fire it is good manners to give place to the last comer, and affect not to speak loud in company; walk not nor beat the ground with your feet.
Young George Washington recorded this as his eighth Rule of Civility. Translation: when someone new shows up, scoot over; don’t yell over everyone else; and stop pacing like you’re waiting for your order at the deli.
Eighteenth-century Washington apparently felt the need to write this down, which suggests that even then someone was hogging the good spot by the fire, talking at full volume, and tap-dancing in place while everyone else was just trying to exist. The rule is basically “read the room before you treat it like your personal stage.”
In modern times this is the person who refuses to slide over when someone joins the table, the one who answers a group text by shouting the whole conversation out loud, or the human who cannot stand still without doing the full anxious two-step. The reminder is simple: leave a little space, lower the volume, and plant your feet so other people can settle in without navigating around you.
Civility, it turns out, sometimes just means not turning every gathering into your own one-man show.
Rule 8 of George Washington’s Rules of Civility.
We’re posting them one by one so we can practice them together.
At play and at fire it is good manners to give place to the last comer, and affect not to speak loud in company; walk not nor beat the ground with your feet.
Young George Washington recorded this as his eighth Rule of Civility. Translation: when someone new shows up, scoot over; don’t yell over everyone else; and stop pacing like you’re waiting for your order at the deli.
Eighteenth-century Washington apparently felt the need to write this down, which suggests that even then someone was hogging the good spot by the fire, talking at full volume, and tap-dancing in place while everyone else was just trying to exist. The rule is basically “read the room before you treat it like your personal stage.”
In modern times this is the person who refuses to slide over when someone joins the table, the one who answers a group text by shouting the whole conversation out loud, or the human who cannot stand still without doing the full anxious two-step. The reminder is simple: leave a little space, lower the volume, and plant your feet so other people can settle in without navigating around you.
Civility, it turns out, sometimes just means not turning every gathering into your own one-man show.
Rule 8 of George Washington’s Rules of Civility.
We’re posting them one by one so we can practice them together.