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Joy Behar admits she's smitten for JD Vance and asked him to run for President backstage "because he has a good vibe" and is "intelligent" after his appearance on The View:
"I don't believe that he's a bad guy."View quoted post on X
I’m struggling to see why the Iran war was a bad idea. Yes it had negative externalities and probably lost them the midterms but “stop Iran from getting nukes” is a good idea or am I being wokeView quoted post on X
A profound act of moral cowardice.View quoted post on X
Low-sex marriages are a modern plague. Today I’m releasing my blueprint for a cure.View quoted post on X
Couples reporting sex fewer than ten times a year have doubled since the 1990s. Now it's 15 to 20 percent.
Some of those men reach out to me.
“She makes no room for it. She is perpetually tired. She will use every minute to do a bunch of crap. I blame her for not connecting often because I see her as choosing all the busywork rather than wanting me.”
“After she begrudgingly gives me what it is she thinks I’m after, I walk away feeling more empty and now ashamed.”
“I try to go to bed when she does—she reads or listens to an audiobook while I pretend to fall asleep, waiting, hoping...nothing. If I instigate, 95% of the time, it’s the wrong time for some reason or another.”
These men get a lot of advice. Most of it terrible.
Marriage counselors try to show couples how to communicate better. Often, thousands of dollars later, nothing improves.
Female friends tell men to be nicer and do the dishes. But the more they act like butlers, the less desire their wives feel.
Some Christian teachers remind men that the Bible commands married couples not to withhold sex. But guilting her leads to lame duty sex (at best).
Angry voices online tell them to “just leave her, bro.” And many who do find themselves in the same situation years later, just with a different woman.
All of it treats a dead bedroom like a communication problem, a chore problem, a duty problem, or a wife problem. But most of the time, it’s a desire problem.
And desire must be cultivated, not negotiated.
Christian men have been lied to about what women find sexy. Be nice. Keep the peace. Earn sex with good behavior. It’s the complete opposite of what works.
Talking it out doesn’t work. Action does.
Niceness doesn’t work. Strength does.
Chores don’t work. Leadership does.
Guilt doesn’t work. Passion does.
Good intentions don’t work. Skill does.
Bitterness doesn’t work. Joy does.
I know because I was right there with them. On paper I was a fine husband, a perfectly nice guy. But sex was infrequent and lackluster, and I numbed my pain with porn. Then I stopped doing what doesn’t work and started doing what does, and now my 24-year marriage is completely transformed.
As I told my story, other men reached out wanting what I had. So I built a course and a brotherhood called Reforged Marriage, and many of their transformations sound like mine.
“Our bedroom had been dead for almost a full year and after the course we broke the drought by having sex twice in the same week.”
“My wife expressed more sexual interest and more hope about our relationship than I’d heard in years, all in spontaneous response to what I was DOING.”
So I wrote down the core of what we teach: the Reforged Marriage Blueprint. It was forged out of my own transformation and refined through the stories of nearly 100 other men. I’ve seen what these tools can do.
And I’m giving it away for free.
No one is going to come into your bedroom and fix this for you. Millions of men stay in lives of quiet desperation, slowly learning to expect less and less from their marriages.
But if you feel God and your own desire calling you to reach for more, I suspect you are vastly underestimating the upper limit of what your marriage could be.
Let’s find out where that ceiling really is.
reforgedmarriage.com/blueprint
Most of the reason DNC has "terrible governance" is that optimizing for political power in a mass democracy is irreducibly at odds with good governanceView quoted post on X
There's no patch for it, it's embedded in the structure of mass democracy itself
